I’ve seen a lot of phony’s in my time and they are easy to spot.
14% of people say they “often” change the way they speak or act depending on who they’re talking to. 32% say they do it “sometimes”, 27% do it “rarely”, and 23% claim they NEVER change who they are.
21% of people say OTHERS often change how they speak or act, 48% say others do it sometimes, 15% believe people do it rarely, and only 5% claim it’s something people never do. (Oh come on.)
So, is this a big deal? The idea is that you might come across as “fake” if you change based on who you’re with. But on the flipside, it might also be a savvy social skill to adjust and adapt yourself to your audience and the situation.
33% of people say shifting is “mostly a good thing.” 28% say it’s “mostly a bad thing.” And 38% aren’t sure.
(I’ve changed my demeanor on the context of the situations and the person’s intentions. It can be annoying to be around someone who’s always playing the room, but if you don’t have any tact, you come off as a jerk. We also have a lot of management types that really know how to fake sincerity. They fake that and they think they have it made.)
Just be yourself….we like you the way you are.
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